Tagged...yikes!!

I have been tagged!! by Apar of Random Ruminations ....

Here is the info...

The rules of the game

RULE #1 : People who have been tagged must write their answers on their blogs and replace any question that they dislike with a new question formulated by themselves.

RULE #2 : Tag 6 people to do this quiz and they cannot refuse. These people must state who they were tagged by and cannot tag the person whom they were tagged by continue this game by sending it to other people.

1. If your lover betrayed you, what will your reaction be?

Pissed!! plain and simple...and the person will have hell to pay...

2. If you can have a dream to come true, what would it be?

To have an amazing figure despite of all the pigging out in the world and no working out too..hey! this is a dream right...


3. Whose butt would you like to kick?

Too many people to list here

4. What would you do with a billion dollars?

Buy amazing stuff for me and my family. Set up charity and scholarship funds for the deprived and travel the world in class...afterall..a billion can take you only so far...

5. Will you u fall in love with your best friend?

Of-course!

6. Which is more blessed, loving someone or being loved by someone?

Being loved

7. How long do you intend to wait for someone you really love?

Not too long..patience is not one of my virtues!

8. If the person you secretly like is already attached, what would you do?

Move-on...there are other fishes in the sea

9. If you like to act with someone, who will it be? your gf/bf or an actress/actor?

Please!!

10. What takes you down the fastest?

Failure

11.How would you see yourself in ten years time?

A mom...running my own business and having a meaningful life

12. What’s your fear?

Not being able to help my loved ones...

13. What kind of person do you think the person who tagged you is?

A strong..smart..yet vulnerable person. Someone who has not realised her full potential...but has not given up on life and dreaming.

14. Would you rather be single and rich or married but poor?

Okay...the romantic in me wants to say poor and married..but the practical in me screams...rich and single..coz honestly being poor truly sucks!

15.What’s the first thing you do when you wake up?

Damn..is it 5:30 already...

16.Would you give all in a relationship?

Yes...but i expect the same level back

17. If you fall in love with two people simultaneously, who would you pick?

That is just not a possiblilty for me..i am waay too picky!

18. Would you forgive and forget no matter how horrible a thing the someone has done?

No...

19. Do you prefer being single or having a relationship?

In a relationship - if it is positive and enriches my life....do not have time for losers..

20. List 6 people to tag

1. Laavanya
2. Sra
3. Sig
4. Nags

I can only think of them...

Old Habits die hard....or do they even die!

seriously...i am notorious for taking more than i can chew..and i mean that in every sense possible. Let me explain...if it is work..i take more assignments than i can handle...no..it is not because i am insecure..it is because..i am greedy! i want to learn everything..NOW!..yeah..so there i go nodding my head..saying..yeah sure! i can do it...and then bury my head at work. If it is house-cleaning (a rare occasion tho)...i am super super thorough...taking a room apart...and clean the whole place up...right from arranging and lining drawers to rearranging clothes and the whole nine yard. The gym..i attend all the classes morning and evening....and want to be advanced level by end of week one (feel free to roll your eyes at me)...and finally comes up favorite topic..studies!!...here i have signed up for exams....which btw. i hav not even touched the book or even know the format of the exam!....And how could i forget DIET!! here i take the freakin cake...advance planning...obsessive weighing of food...thorough division of carb-protein-fat (luckily not more in-depth i tell ya) and timing of the food..spaced every 3 hours (i set an alarm...oooh yeah!!)

I have always been like this...obsessed and desire perfection in what i do..which is btw quite rare...coz i am also super lazy and not embarrased about it :D. My mentality has always been all or nothing...i have tried to change...and i did think i have...only to discover i was like a wolf in sheep's clothing! I am still the same girl...getting irritated if it is not to my standard and still nuts on things getting done in a certain way...i think what has changed in me during the years is I no longer expect people to do things my way...I just go ahead and do it and not throw a bitch fit...so do i get brownie points for it....oops!!

Btw. thnks for asking about me girls...felt the love..i tell ya...and Apar..will look into the tag.

You know

what makes me mad about blogging and even commenting is people out of the blue..complete strangers come in and shove their opinion on what is right or not. Who are these people and what right do they have to tell me how i should express my feelings?? If you do not like what i am saying..please move on..close the page..or ignore my comment and maybe make sure you never read what i write..but how dare you pass on a judgement on me and tell me what i am writing is incorrect. I am fed-up of people who are judgemental..it seems the world is full of them! i guess these people thrive on arguments..advice giving and putting people down. 'You cannot say this'...'this is wrong'...'in my opinion'...really who the freak cares! shove ur opinion and keep ur trap shut!

I have seen arguments everywhere....weight-loss boards...career help boards...even on boards that help you to write a competetive exams..there is always a group of people..basically busy bodies..who moniter everything around them and make sure things are as to their liking. What a bunch of selfish losers. It gets hard to even express what you think..as there is someone pointing their finger and saying..'this is wrong...this is how it should be told'...'that is great'...who are you btw. and why do you hide under alphabets and fictitious names and leave no valid email behind..so that i can reach you and give you a piece of my mind....uuuugh!

It's a family secret

she claimed..when my friend asked the host the recipe of a paneer dish she had at her place. It made me laugh..coz my bud told me the host was a keralite ..so i seriously doubt the recipe was handed down generation to generation..a punjabi..kashmiri...even u.p'ite i would perhaps believe it...and secondly..c'mon people..what is the harm in sharing?? I understand if you have a catering business or a restaurant business where you do not want to divulge the secret...but for a home cook to do that in my opinion is plain rude. My buddy was pretty miffed..esp. when the host had written down recipes of bisibela-baath and some more kannadiga recipes from her...but when it came to share her recipe..turned her down.

I have noticed this trend here in America..not sure if it is caught-up elsewhere...but growing up in India i recall..we would force our mother to get geeta maami's rawa idly recipe...or anjali aunty's chole-bhature recipe..coz we loved it so..and those aunties would share it so lovingly...actually sending in some the next time they make it!. I see 'family' recipes and other authentic recipes shared by so many bloggers with pictures and ever ready to answer your questions..so what is with some people who are keeping their family secrets for food?? I am fed-up with people claiming family secret pasta sauce..family secret chilli..family secret god-knows-what!! get over it guys!! share it...you are anyway not making a buck with selling ur food..why not share the recipe and share the love of food with friends.

I remember...one of my co-workers...who would talk a lot of her pasta sauce recipe..spilled the beans..after an evening in the bar. The amazing secret was just a ridiculous step in making the sauce!!..i laughed so hard when i heard it..coz i was expecting it to be something exotic or some technique i had no idea about. When you see food network..half the channel is talking about family secret recipe..while we have the other half claiming to us that they are spilling their family secret recipe..and i see the recipe with full concentration instead of the usual half my mind on the book i am reading...only to get short-changed on the recipe..the secret is nothing to write home about!!...as usual i have been made a dummy :D

Keep that pooch on a leash...

and make sure the freakin leash is not too long. I am fed up by the way dogs have taken over the side walks and parks around me...where they seem to rule the roost and people like me..who are nervous of them..are left walking on main roads or peeping into parks to make sure there is no dog in there and scrambling out the minute they arrive. Why do these owners..remove the leash and let the dog run 'loose'!!..don't they have a yard in their home..or go to an empty space up-north and play catch with your pet. Don't come to a park and make the walking/jogging experience for the rest of us sheer hell.

Anyone who remotely knows me..knows i hate to walk. But off-late in my quest to lose the chub...i have been jogging and walking...depends on mood and stamina. So...i go to this small park near my home..i really like it...it is completely wooded...cool and quiet..then just a few days back i see a couple coming in with their monster of a dog. The let the doggy loose and concentrate on themselves!..and the mutt is running amuck...chasing squirrels..running after people and sniffing little kids. Luckily..i was just near the entrance of the park and took a quick exit. If that is not inconsideration..pray tell me what is! Then there are the other folks..who have a pet on a leash sooooo long..that the dog can walk nearly a block before you!!...this dog barks at humans..snarls at other doggies and poops and pisses where it wants..and the darling dog owner is soo busy on the phone..that she decides to give the shit cleaning a go...after all she thinks...it is bio-degradable..yuck!!...i have seen people just ignoring to pick up the poop..unless they realise there are people observing them...even then it is a half ass attempt...sic

Another thing which can irritate me is when the pooch owner tells you...'he is really sweet you know..he cannot harm even a bird'...uuhhh...all this when the dog has his nose up your ass...and you squeal...yep! i squeal like a little girl..i am basically very very jumpy by nature. Anyhoo...i really do not care if the dog can harm a bird or eat a cat..but get them off me..i really think it is so rude. It is their way of being friendly the pet owner claims...umm...i don't want to be friends...keep him/her at your place and let me be!!

So guys...if you have a dog..please show some consideration for the rest of us...and hold on tight to them...and no..all of us are not in love with your puffy face or cuddle bun!!

As i get older

and look back at my life i realise there are so many things taken for granted. There are so many people who struggle to make ends meet to live their dignified middle class existence. So many fathers who work overtime and work weekends to save money to get their daughters married and mothers who never buy anything for themselves to save every penny they have.
As i get older i get angry when i keep seeing that poor people are ill treated because they have no money...when men as old as our fathers are made to wait on the side with their arms folded because they do not move in your social circles...women as old as our mothers go home to home cooking and making bakshanams in various people's homes and sometimes not even offered hot coffee to drink or given a break from the gruelling work.
Why are we so cruel hearted towards innocent kids...getting angry at them when they follow you with greedy eyes when you walk out of a sweet shop holding a huge packet of goodies...why! don't those children have desires? Why is it fully acceptable for your maid to bring in her little daughter with her to work and wash utensils and you think the maid is being practical but it is okay when you stress out and hyperventilate when your teenage son goes to the nearby kirana shop to get a soap bar and you worry that he is only a kid...As i get older i keep wondering why are we so hypocritical....

My son is a doctor...

said the man who was sitting next to me in the Lufthansa flight to India. He is in a verry goodd position...he proudly states. His house is so big...6 bedrooms..ha ha..i was getting lost for the first few days. Then he launched on the appliances sonny boy has got. He has only expensive items in his home...only the best...and he drives BMW..and so does his wife..uhhh...ah..she drives an SUV (happy he remembered the make of the car..it is important info u know!). My dil is a verry good girl...little stylish..but you know....today's generation...here in America they do not like people wearing indian clothes..so she is forced to wear skirts and jeans. Well..i just smiled and nodded and pretended to feel sleepy. I was ready to fake sleep so i do not have to hear this boring bragging for a few more hours....but the man seemed to have no pity on me.

What is up with people who bore you with details of their homes?? Do they think the rest of us care...or do they think that position their kids or family members have are unattainable?? Or do they subject strangers with this torture coz nobody else in their family or friends listens to them!! I have unfortunately been subjected to this sort of bragging many a times!! Like the last time...yep..again to a flight to India (maybe i gotta stop flying alone..this could be a sign!) where a gentleman next to me..was claiming that he was a caterer to the movie stars in India. How he knew Amitji (roll eyes), Jeethu bhaisahab (roll..roll..roll eyes) and his daughter...and a couple more..seriously i can't remember. He talked non-stop and it was really sad..coz i was pumped up on Niquil and i guess through his talking fell asleep...coz i really do not recall him stopping...and when i woke up...he seemed a bit cold for a while (yahoo!!)...but went on about integrity and generation gap later on!! Yikes!!

Then there is another type...who bitch and crib and whine on how there is no respect for them. We are all alone in India...this aunty tells me in the grocery store here in Kroger the other day. If uncle is falling sick....i take care...but when i am sick...poor uncle does everything for me :(...my son wants to come...but....you know...she nods suggestively....mmchh...what to do ma..we have done our duty as parents..now all our happiness is with our children..gives me a nirupa-roy smile (if u do not know who is nirupa roy...shame on you!!). I am seriously in a dhuvidha...coz my blood is boiling that she blames dil..but i can't be mean to her coz it is not nice to be rude (yeah...even i at times do get complacent!).

But..in the end what comes to me is there has to be an end to whining and discussing private issues with all and sundry! You can share it with friends...people you know...but when you spill ur guts to people around you or brag to them...you are really making the innocent bystander's life miserable...

The pride of being subservient....

so a buddy a few days back proudly states to me 'avarku fresh sapadu thaan pidikum'..translate to 'my husband likes only fresh food'..so i ask her what do you do with left-overs?? She claims to me that she eats it...but she insists that hubs is very kind and does not mind rasam and curry...but it should be fresh. It really made me quite mad..not only is this 21st century woman putting up with this insane demand..she seems to revel in the fact that her husband is demanding. It then came to my mind...why do some women act this this fashion??..they are really taking women back 100 some years.

Just the other day my sis had gone to my nephews' school to pay their fees and was relating this incident to me. A lady with her husband and her mom had come to school to pay her kid's fees too. The husband was talking on the phone and acting important...the lady and her mother were standing in the line... i guess it was getting late for her to go to work...so her mother offered to stand and wait and pay the fee while she could go ahead to work. As she was leaving..her husband (still on the phone) basically yells at her and tells her 'go and stand in the line and pay the fees'..so this woman goes to the line....where her mother insists that she better go to work or she would get yelled at by her boss. My sister told me this scene happenned for 10 minutes and this poor woman was walking back and forth between husband and mom!! and all this in front of other parents in school to see. Actually this incident made me so sad for her...here is a woman smart and capable...but why can't she stand-up for herself! What sort of impression must she be giving to her children. If she were treated this poorly in front of strangers..i can imagine her plight at home!

This brings back to another point where women love to be dominated or perhaps not dominated...but love to do everything for their husband....our neighbour in Hyd. was not feeling well...so her son and dil came to see her. The dil went around the neighbourhood stating quite proudly...i wish i could stay back and take care of my darling mil..but my husband does not know anything (btw. she means in the kitchen...i am sure if he were dumb in other areas...she would be mighty pissed :D )...so i have to go with him. Really!! you married him when he was 28...and he was living alone from 21 years of age (he is my neighbour..so i know this people)....so what do you think he did for those years when you were not married to him?? starve!!...Now don't take me wrong..she does not have to stay back to take care of mil..,but what made it funny or let me be honest irritating was..how she claimed and groaned and moaned about how her husband could do nothing without her...and how she is compelled to go instead of basically taking care of mil :D .Many women feel they are important only when they cook and clean and have their husbands totally dependent on them. Like in Hindi movies..where the men go around screaming for their wives to stich a shirt button...and she she stiches it oh! soo lovingly...like it is pure bliss(puke).

What amazes me is that these women are smart...capable..financially independent and not complacent...but there is something in them that accepts men as their superior and are immensely happy in catering to their whims and fancies....

What do you do all day at home

she asks me....grrrr...i could bite her head off. Since i have decided to take a break from work and concentrate on some other things that are in priority for me. ..i have been asked this question oh! soo many times..and it sets my teeth on edge..coz honestly it is none of their freakin business. I also get on how lucky i am to sleep till 8:00 am..i wish i could get-up that late...have that luxury..they coo...umm..quit ur freakin job and stop being such a money whore...i want to scream. Who put a gun to ur head telling you to work!! really...aren't we all making choices most of the time. Many women go to work..coz they like the independence...the money that comes with it..the career growth...well..there are some of us who are fed-up with the rat race and want to cool off.

Then i get another favorite question..well..u are at home ..might as well have a baby!!..umm..really...so a baby is something you have to pass ur time?? For me..having a baby is something you desire and you have chalked out some plans for it...it is not something you say monday morning...yawn! i am bored..let's have a baby...i guess many do that...but that is so not my style. I love it when there are some elders in families who say....have a baby....everything will take care by itself!! hmmm...pray tell me how?? Of-course when i ask questions like this..i am labelled as insolent...someone with no respect to the elderly folks...aiyooo...i guess only if you stick to the norm can you open ur big mouth...otherwise..better keep ur trap shut huh!!