The pride of being subservient....

so a buddy a few days back proudly states to me 'avarku fresh sapadu thaan pidikum'..translate to 'my husband likes only fresh food'..so i ask her what do you do with left-overs?? She claims to me that she eats it...but she insists that hubs is very kind and does not mind rasam and curry...but it should be fresh. It really made me quite mad..not only is this 21st century woman putting up with this insane demand..she seems to revel in the fact that her husband is demanding. It then came to my mind...why do some women act this this fashion??..they are really taking women back 100 some years.

Just the other day my sis had gone to my nephews' school to pay their fees and was relating this incident to me. A lady with her husband and her mom had come to school to pay her kid's fees too. The husband was talking on the phone and acting important...the lady and her mother were standing in the line... i guess it was getting late for her to go to work...so her mother offered to stand and wait and pay the fee while she could go ahead to work. As she was leaving..her husband (still on the phone) basically yells at her and tells her 'go and stand in the line and pay the fees'..so this woman goes to the line....where her mother insists that she better go to work or she would get yelled at by her boss. My sister told me this scene happenned for 10 minutes and this poor woman was walking back and forth between husband and mom!! and all this in front of other parents in school to see. Actually this incident made me so sad for her...here is a woman smart and capable...but why can't she stand-up for herself! What sort of impression must she be giving to her children. If she were treated this poorly in front of strangers..i can imagine her plight at home!

This brings back to another point where women love to be dominated or perhaps not dominated...but love to do everything for their husband....our neighbour in Hyd. was not feeling well...so her son and dil came to see her. The dil went around the neighbourhood stating quite proudly...i wish i could stay back and take care of my darling mil..but my husband does not know anything (btw. she means in the kitchen...i am sure if he were dumb in other areas...she would be mighty pissed :D )...so i have to go with him. Really!! you married him when he was 28...and he was living alone from 21 years of age (he is my neighbour..so i know this people)....so what do you think he did for those years when you were not married to him?? starve!!...Now don't take me wrong..she does not have to stay back to take care of mil..,but what made it funny or let me be honest irritating was..how she claimed and groaned and moaned about how her husband could do nothing without her...and how she is compelled to go instead of basically taking care of mil :D .Many women feel they are important only when they cook and clean and have their husbands totally dependent on them. Like in Hindi movies..where the men go around screaming for their wives to stich a shirt button...and she she stiches it oh! soo lovingly...like it is pure bliss(puke).

What amazes me is that these women are smart...capable..financially independent and not complacent...but there is something in them that accepts men as their superior and are immensely happy in catering to their whims and fancies....